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Great question. 

First of all, if you’re looking for a humane way to take care of mice, check out this video. 

Second of all, it is not fair to create assumptions about an individual based on this one action or desire (to get rid of the mice). Human beings are far too complex, and it is next to impossible to make accurate assumptions about another person’s morals and beliefs. Some people call this assumption-making “judgment” - a very limiting mechanism that may seem useful at first, but restricts the possibilities of each individual being judged. Some say judging a person is like putting them in a cage with no bars.

There are endless possibilities why the partner feels compelled to rid of the mouse - some they are aware of, and some they may not even recognize themselves. To assume that their ability to kill a mouse has any connection to family and other living things is a shot in the dark, and the assumption itself can cause suffering - to you and your partner. These assumptions will leach into other facets of your relationship and life.  This is certainly not what you want. 

See reality for what it is. I can guarantee you your assumptions are false, because there are no true assumptions. Talk to your partner about it in a non-judgemental way (this will be a challenge). If anger or frustration surfaces on either end, be patient. Hear them out, listen. If you find that you are the one getting angry, it is possible that there are other issues going on here, and you need to take a meditation break to reflect before projecting more bad energy onto your partner. This is your responsibility. 

While your opinions about the value of another critters life are valid, so are the opinions of your partner. Becoming attached to your assumptions and being judgemental will only cause more harm to the universe as time goes on than your partner humanely ridding of a mouse. 

Stay true,

Natasha